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Our Forever Celebration – Thanking our Lord


I’m still in awe of this weekend’s adoption celebration. I have had the time to sit and truly thank God for the miracle of our son – Jeremy. So, here’s to you Lord. Thank you! I am so overjoyed by what You do.

What’s most amazing to me is the fact that we were surrounded by so many people that love us. Some came from long distances just to celebrate this special day with us. Most were made up of church family and work friends. How wonderful that the Lord gave me such big and loving spiritual family – they are the ones that step up to be there for us – even more than blood family. I am forever grateful to you friends.

I made it a point to not take any pictures and just enjoy the party. So, I have limited pics for you. Our photographer will send the pics soon. Here’s my favorite pic, which we took at the photo booth.

It seems we Ponts like to be silly.

It seems we Ponts like to be silly.

What an amazing God we serve!

It is finished. Done. Jeremy is a Pont. He’s never been ours, but God’s. He brings so much joy and laughter that I can’t help but to share it with you.

The journey has been long. It has been difficult. We’ve shed many tears. There were days of feeling like giving up. But our God gave us strength. He led the way. He is faithful.

Thank you for allowing me to share this wonderful day with you.

What about you? What’s been a day of celebration for your family? What are you thankful for? Would love for you to leave me a comment here.





We are Now a Forever Family: Our Adoption Ceremony


Our forever family - May 19, 2014

Our forever family – May 19, 2014

Today began with so much emotion. I couldn’t sleep well at night just thinking that within the next couple hours I would be Jeremy’s forever mommy. That’s the terminology we use in the foster/adoption world – forever. It’s a commitment you make to each other as a family to be there for each other, through good and bad times.

I still remember the first time I met my son, May 2012. It was two years ago – almost exactly. I went to meet this little guy who would be up for adoption not knowing I would fall in love at first sight. I didn’t believe people when they would say that, but I can tell you it was instant. Our eyes locked. I held him and it felt so good. It felt so natural – as if I had carried him all along. And I did, I carried him in my heart.

As I left the apartment that day, I knew he was my son. I heard a small still voice say, “This is my son.” I held on to this for the next eight months as we prayed for God to open doors and bring him home. During that time, we had our eight year old foster daughter, whom we turned down to adopt. That was the toughest decision yet in my entire life – and I’ve had many challenges, but none like saying no to a broken child who desperately needed a forever home. This story is for another post.

Finally, on November 8, 2012, Jeremy came home. Placed as a foster-child, we still had to wait for the adoption, which would take almost two years.

But the wait was worth it! We are now complete. At least for now… we are going to make room for more children, but all in God’s time.

For now, we just want to enjoy the fact that he is ours. Well, we know he is God’s child. And we know he’s ours because God entrusted us with his care. And for that we are honored.

So, today was the third happiest day of my life:

1). Marrying my best friend, Albert

2) Surrendering my life to the Lord

3) Our son’s adoption

As I sit here at my local Starbucks, I am overjoyed with such gratitude and overwhelming joy. I want you to know that I share this story so you too can have hope.

Whatever it is you are waiting for – God will answer. All in His time. All at His pace. All for His Glory!



P.S. I will from now on bombard you with my son’s pics (just kidding). Here’s a couple of pics from today’s ceremony.

On another note, have you checked out my new website changes? Lots of change coming, not just in my family life, but in this website as well. I will be sending a survey within the next couple weeks to help me in my decision of where this blog is heading.

In the meantime, come visit the website and let me know what you think. Click here:


We cried – a lot!


My nervous (fake) smile. LOL I had butterflies in my stomach.

Who I am in Christ – What He calls Me to Be

I had the privilege of serving in our women’s ministry last week. Following is the message I shared. I do pray that it blesses you. Feel free to share it with friends and family.

What His word says about who I am

Q: Who are you?

Many of us listen to voices that speak lies to our lives.

We listen because we do not know what God says about who we are in Christ.

  • Colossians 2:6-7 – “So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.”

Q: What is one lie you have believed about who you are? 

In order to know what His word says about who I am, I need to live in Him (rooted and built up in Him).

Here are three areas we are to be rooted in:

1. We are to be rooted in God’s Story

Our story is rooted in God’s story:

◆      Creation – I was created. I am dependent on God. I am not self-sufficient. I am human. I am created in God’s image – I am not a god.

◆      Fall – I am sinful, corrupt, blind, and lost. I am not good, nor perfect by nature – I’m the opposite.

◆      Redemption – I am saved. I am a daughter/son of God. I am Satan’s enemy. Christ broke the power of sin over my life. I did nothing. He did everything.

◆      Consummation – I will be made new. I will have an eternal home. I am not my problems. I am not of this world.

Q: What did you learn about God’s story?


2. We are to be rooted in God’s Character

◆      I am who God determines I am. My identity has nothing to do with me – and everything to do with who God is.

◆      I cannot understand who I am until I understand who God is!

◆      I am not defined by in terms of who I am – I am defined in terms of what God does and the relationship we create together.

◆      John Piper said, “As a Christian you cannot talk about your identity without talking about the action of God on you, the relationship of God with you, and the purpose of God for you.”

◆      It’s not about me – AND EVERYTHING ABOUT HIM

Q: What’s your response to this last statement, “It’s not about me and everything about Him?”


3. We are to be rooted in God’s Son – Jesus

◆      Who I am comes from understanding myself in relation to Christ and living out His word in my life.

◆      When we look for who we are in ourselves – we become confused, selfish, and sinful.

◆      Our identity is rooted in what Christ did and who He is – not on what we do.

Q: In what ways have you looked within yourself for identity?

What He calls me to

1. He calls me to live

Colossians 2:13-15 – “When you were dead in your sins and in the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made you alive with Christ. He forgave us all our sins, having canceled the charge of our legal indebtedness, which stood against us and condemned us; he has taken it away, nailing it to the cross. And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross.”

  • We were once dead, but the Lord made us alive – he forgave our sins.
  • Since we have been raised with Christ, we are to set our hearts on things above.

Colossians 3:1-3 – “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.”

Q: How are we made alive in Christ?

Colossians 3:5-11

“5 Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these, the wrath of God is coming. You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.”

Before we put on, we must “get rid of the “old self – the old life” by ridding ourselves of:

  1. Anger
  2. Malice
  3. Slander
  4. Filthy language
  5. Lying

Q: Have you considered any of these “old self’ behaviors and how these could be sucking the “life” out of you? 

Colossians 3:5-11

“12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”

Now, we enter into the “new life” by putting on (clothing ourselves) with:

  1. Compassion
  2. Kindness
  3. Humility
  4. Gentleness
  5. Patience
  6. - Forgive
  7. - Put on LOVE

These seven pieces are what will keep us alive in Christ… meaning, we must put them on daily – practice them.

Q: Which one do you find difficult and why?

2. He calls me to live a life worthy of pleasing Him

Colossians 1:9-13 – “For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light. For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves.”

  • We are to be filled with knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding.
  • We are to live a life worthy of the Lord – to please him in every way.

Q: What does it mean to live a life worthy of the Lord?

We please the Lord by:

1)       bearing fruit in every good work

2)       growing in the knowledge of the Lord

3)      being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might that you may have great endurance and patience

4)       and joyfully giving thanks to the Father


Some principles to keep us Rooted in the Life of Christ:

1. Know you are chosen – know who you are

  • 2 Thessalonians 2:13 – “But we ought always to thank God for you, brothers loved by the Lord, because from the beginning God chose you to be saved through the sanctifying work of the Spirit and through the belief in the truth.”

2. Obedience

  • 1 Thessalonians 2:4 – “We are not trying to please men but God, who tests our hearts.”
  • Our example is Jesus. Hebrews 5:7-10 – “Jesus learned obedience”

3. Devoted Prayer & Reading His Word

  • Colossians 4:2 – “Continue in prayer, and watch in the same with thanksgiving.”

4. Joy & Thankfulness

  • 1 Thessalonians 4:16 – “Be joyful always, pray continually; giving thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

5. Live a Holy life

  • 1 Thessalonians 4:3 – “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified.”
  • 1 Peter 1:15 – “Be holy in all you do.”
  • We live a holy life by preparing our minds for action; be self-controlled, set my hope on Jesus, and be obedient. (Verse 13)
  • Ephesians 5:22 – “You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.

Many blessings to you. Remember who you are in Christ!


Today is the Day to Say “Yes” to God + Giveaway


Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow is not here. What do I have?


Right now is the only time I have.

What am I living for today? I’ve been asking myself this question since reading Kristen Welch’s book, Rhinestone Jesus: Saying yes to God when sparkly faith, safe faith is no longer enough. In chapter four, Kristen speaks about how each of us are here to fulfill a specific purpose – for Jesus.

These words struck me deeply:

“I discovered that the one thing we are called to do – our mission – is really secondary. It’s found only after we pursue the primary, the ultimate goal of our lives, which is to bring glory to God.”

Bringing Glory to God in the little things will help us serve others with passion and humility. I want to serve others as unto the Lord, not just to do things, but to Glorify Him with all my heart, mind and soul.

Last week I shared with you my yeses, Saying Yes to the Deep – #yessinmymess, which is not as inspiring as Kristen’s story, but it’s my life – my story. This weekend, my husband and I, will be hosting Compassion Sunday at our church. This is part of my Yes to God.

You see, saying Yes may mean exposing yourself to do things that are uncomfortable. You will do things because it needs to get done – because someone needs to… because there is a need… and you are the hands and feet of Jesus.

Our packet from Compassion International arrived yesterday. My heart sank as I saw the faces of these children. Some were trying hard to smile. My mind immediately said, “Yes – I will be here for you little one.”

Kristen did the same by taking a huge leap of faith. Here’s her story:

Isn’t saying Yes to God amazing?

I love what Kristen says about compassion (you know we’re all about compassion here at Compassionate Healer Ministries).

“I wanted clean compassion, the kind that is more about me feeling good about what I’ve done, the kind that could be covered by writing a check and not investing anything else.”

“Redemption comes when we least expect it but exactly when we need it the most; next to a hospital bed, at a birth or death, alone with God or surrounded by friends, or when we say a reluctant yes on foreign soil.”

“God used a day in hell to reduce me.”

And that was just the beginning…

God is continuing to use the initial “yes.” And the result has been incredible.

I’m “starting small” today. I will say Yes to God by writing this blog post and spreading the word about the need – the many needs that you and I can fill. Whatever God’s prompt is for you, just start small – right where you are, even in your mess. Start with Kristen’s book.

Order your copy here:

Kristen (and her publisher) were gracious enough to send me two copies to give away to you. Yay! Details at the bottom of this post.



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10 Characteristics of a Controlling Wife – Part 1

10 Characteristics

Let’s face it, some women can be manipulative and controlling when it comes to their husbands. We don’t mean wrong, but we know our behaviors are not helping our marriage. If anything, these behaviors are tearing our homes down.

No judgments here, but let’s be real and honest with each other. Identifying our opportunities is the first step in finding the solution to change – not to change our husbands, but to change ourselves.

If there is one theme that comes up frequently in my therapy office, it’s the theme of control. Today, I want to share the 10 10 characteristics of controlling wives that I have seen played, which is toxic to any relationship. Now, some of these can also be applied to parent-child relationships.

Take a piece of paper and jot down the number of the characteristic you exhibit. Once you are down reading each description, it will help you on creating a plan of growth. I promise you – when you change any of the following, your husband will notice. He will be a much happier man and you a more satisfied wife.

  1. Undermining – I talk for my husband. I order his food, tell people how he feels and what he thinks. I know him better than he knows himself.

  2. Disrespect – I talk over or down at my husband. When my husband does talk, I ignore him and talk over him. Sometimes, I talk down at him because I simply won’t tolerate his nonsense.

  3. Child-Treatment – I ask my husband to do something, but then do it for him – he’s not fast enough OR I tell him how and when to do things because if not, he’ll do it wrong.

  4. De-Motivating – I really want my husband to be the spiritual head of our home, so I say things like, “When are you gonna read your Bible?” “Why aren’t you praying or going to church?” to motivate him to do something about it. (Instilling guilt – consequence)

  5. Over-Spiritualizing – Since my husband is not taking the lead spiritually, I over commit with church activities and ministry because I think, “Someone’s gotta take the lead spiritually and it ain’t my husband.”

  6. Shaming – I constantly nag about what’s not being done and I do it in front of our kids, family and friends. Maybe this way he’ll be motivated to change!

  7. Pride – I make all the decisions in my home without consulting with my husband because I believe he can’t do anything right.

  8. Selfishness – I am an independent woman. I believe I don’t need my husband and I make sure he knows it.

  9. Critical – I do one of two things when things don’t go my way (1) I shutdown. I don’t say a word. Why should I? Nothing changes anyway. OR (2) I lay down the law. I’m super detailed on what I want and how I want it. I demand changes.

  10. Deprivation – I deprive him of conversation and/or sex if he doesn’t do what I ask.

So, how did you do? Don’t worry about how many characteristics you are currently engaging in. What matters is that now you are aware of them. Now you can do something about them. Stay tuned for my next blog post on The Effects of Control on the Marriage.

Here’s the card version in case you want to pin them :)











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